I am the step mother of the groom, and I am having a problem finding the right attire for the ceremony?
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This is a church wedding and the reception is a picnic in the park. They are having a BBQ of hamburgers, hot dogs and brats. I am not obese, but on the heavier side. The mother of the bride is thin and wearing a tea length dress. My stepsons’ mother and I rarely talk, so I don’t know what she has chosen to wear. I really don’t want to wear a dress since it’s an outdoor reception in July (where it could be very humid) and wearing nylons would be uncomfortable for me. The outfit I have found is a pants suit. It has a tank top and flared pants. There is a sheer jacket that has slits up each side and comes down to the knees. I has sequins on it. My delemma is that the pants and top are white or off white and the jacket is a black and white print. Would wearing these colors be inappropriate? I don’t want to stand out since I am the step mother. The fathers of the wedding party are not wearing tuxes. They are just wearing suits of their choice. Can you please advice me.
I appreciate all the advice. Each answer has given me something to think about. I am just the step mother and I don’t have a say so in the attire. The wedding party and family are dressing formal. I agree, that being a picnic reception, it should be light and informal. If the parents are dressing formal, I would be out of place wearing a plain pant suit or sundress. I think I can get by with sandals, but as far as a dress I don’t know. I appreciate the color suggestions.
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This is a church wedding and the reception is a picnic in the park. They are having a BBQ of hamburgers, hot dogs and brats. I am not obese, but on the heavier side. The mother of the bride is thin and wearing a tea length dress. My stepsons’ mother and I rarely talk, so I don’t know what she has chosen to wear. I really don’t want to wear a dress since it’s an outdoor reception in July (where it could be very humid) and wearing nylons would be uncomfortable for me. The outfit I have found is a pants suit. It has a tank top and flared pants. There is a sheer jacket that has slits up each side and comes down to the knees. I has sequins on it. My delemma is that the pants and top are white or off white and the jacket is a black and white print. Would wearing these colors be inappropriate? I don’t want to stand out since I am the step mother. The fathers of the wedding party are not wearing tuxes. They are just wearing suits of their choice. Can you please advice me.
I appreciate all the advice. Each answer has given me something to think about. I am just the step mother and I don’t have a say so in the attire. The wedding party and family are dressing formal. I agree, that being a picnic reception, it should be light and informal. If the parents are dressing formal, I would be out of place wearing a plain pant suit or sundress. I think I can get by with sandals, but as far as a dress I don’t know. I appreciate the color suggestions.
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I would find something tan or beige pants suit!
This outfit sounds like it will make you look “larger than life.”
I’m a heavy woman, too - so Yeah, I can say that.
Look for a conservative outfit that is of a neutral color - like dusty pink or blue - or sage green. No black/white stuff. White makes us bigger gals look even bigger.
Same with flared leg pants - less than flattering.
Look for cap sleeves or short sleeves. You’ll be burning up outside in a jacket - which you won’t want to take off because then you’ll be all in white - less than good.
And honey, you can wear sandals and use a spray-on bronzer to avoid pantyhose - so don’t dismiss a lovely dress.
Just be conservative and neutral colored.
AND thank you for trying to be low key. You’re a real peach.
You’re talking to the right person! Have I ever been there!
Only in my case it was as the mother of the bride–and in my case it was with trying to please my daughter, and compared to THAT ANYTHING is easy!
What you don’t know yet is that THIS IS A GOLDEN OPPORTUNITY to BREAK THE ICE with your future daughter-in-law and/or her mother!
What more endearing thing for a future mother-in-law to do than to express her worries, like you did in the paragraph above, about would be the right thing to wear to the wedding?! You want so MUCH to do it right for THEM!
SO ASK the BRIDE. TELL her, or her mother, or both, your concerns about your outfit. Call them even if you’ve never spoken to either one of them before in your life! That’s how I called my daughter’s mother-in-law the first time–I called her and asked her what she was going to wear to the wedding.
1. They will APPRECIATE that you are asking them for
guidance about what they think is right for you to wear–it
shows you care about them and their wedding.
2..It’s a GREAT ICE-BREAKING WAY to get to know your
future daughter-in-law and your son’s mother-in-law better.
“attire” is a fun, light, easy, playful topic to talk about.
Don’t waste this great opportunity! CALL!
With the reception being a BBQ in the park, suits and fancy dresses seem a bit too much. I would opt for a pretty summer dress with a matching sweater so you would be appropriate in the ceremony but pretty and comfortable for a picnic. A strappy sandal would be all you need and no stockings. The pants suit you found sounds very nice but more formal. Most of this wedding you will be spending outdoors in the grass so I definitely would look for something more appropriate for that venue.
Good Day,
May I say : NO SEQUINS darling….no white and no large black and white prints..
Think Linan Suits, in pastel colors, mints, aquas.. I just went on line and they have summer suits on sale for plus size starting at $40 paired w/ a nice flat sandal.. You be stylish and comfortable.